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When it comes to relationships and dating, is it quality over quantity or vice versa? According to a recent study, women will kiss 15 men on average before they settle for that ‘one great love’1. Based on those statistics, I should hang my head in shame. I can count with one hand the number of guys I’ve pashed, and this figure already includes the boy I forced to kiss me when we were 5 years old playing ‘mothers and fathers’! Eeek!
During my footloose and fancy free years, I had a set of criteria, a list as long as The Great Wall of China, and like Santa I checked it twice. If the guy didn’t reach my standards I fobbed them off like there was no tomorrow. I wanted sexy, suave, sophisticated, financially stable, ambitious, smart, caring, honest, romantic, sense of humour blah blah blah. My needs went on and on like a Celine Dion song. If there was no chemistry, too bad so sad, onto the next. Nice guys came and went. Looking back, I was holding out for perfection….something that obviously does NOT exist.
In between short-lived flings, I experienced dry patches more barren than the Sahara Desert. At one point, I had my mother’s friends arranging dates with their sons. I think one of my friends felt so sorry for me, she tried to hook me up with every single guy she knew was on the market. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that one of the guys she lined me up with was ‘batting for the other team’. Bless her cotton socks – her intentions were good. I was so scared of becoming an old spinster, I knew something had to give. I resorted to drastic measures……I lowered my expectations.
**Keep an eye out for the conclusion of this tale in the next post!**
Citations
As an old(er) woman ‘completely left on the shelf’, marry a man who is your best friend who has similar morals, standards, financial outlook and goals in life. Marry a man who makes you laugh and you cannot imagine living without.
Marry someone (male/female) who will still be your best friend in old age (after the kids have grown up & moved away).
Friendship is the greatest mate for Life. Ensure you’re friends before you become lovers.
I totally agree with you. Laughter is the key. It’s great to be with someone you want to grow old with, through good times and bad.
Is it acceptable to laugh at him growing old??! xxx
hahaha that’s so cheeky! lol My theory is….if you don’t laugh, you cry. Laughter is the best medicine. Are you laughing with him or at him 😉
Can’t wait to read about lowered expectations!
Bless her cotton socks – a great version of “bless her heart”!
Oh, that’s so cool. I’m just editing and adding some final touches to the piece. Can’t wait to post it. Cheers